Hey All. Thanks for following along for this special Wedding Week. I hope you are enjoying it so far. Today I’m talking about gifts. With weddings there are lots of gifts involved, especially if you are in the wedding party. So let’s first talk about all the different wedding related occasions and parties and acceptable gifts.
If you are a Guest
If you are invited to multiple events for one wedding (i.e. Engagement Party, Bridal Shower, Bachelorette Party, and Wedding) then you should get a gift for every event. However, that being said, you don’t have to be big, expensive gifts for each event. I would recommend you set up a budget and divide it up between the events, saving the biggest portion of that budget for the main wedding gift.
If you are in the wedding party, you are already shelling out a lot of money to fund all the expenses that go along with the title of bridesmaid or maid of honor (hotels, transportation, dresses, gifts, etc). For this reason, I think it is ok to not go over board on your gifting budget. There are tons of great gifts that won’t break the bank, and usually a couple will register for a range of products at different prices. You are sure to find something that falls within your budget.
This is the kick off to what will be the couple’s new life together. If you are very close with the couple you can get them a small fun gift to mark the occasion. However, knowing that there will be other events to shortly follow I would recommend spending the least amount of your budget on this gift. Below are some ideas for a sweet “Congratulations on your Engagement” gift.
“He liked it so he put a ring on it” Mug / “Future Mrs” Headband / “Mrs” Earrings / Ban.do Sweet Talk Pen Set / Kate Spade Ring Dish / Baublerella Bling Brush / “To do before I do” Notepad / Brides Magazine
The first rule of buying a gift for the couple is that it is best to buy from the wedding registry. The couple has spent a lot of time picking and choosing exactly what they want in their home to start their new life together. Other gift ideas include gift cards to one of the stores on their registry, cash for their honeymoon or to put towards a down payment on a house, or a home made gift. If you are going the home made gift route, make sure you know the bride and groom really well and can make something top notch (not a pinterest project gone wrong).
For the Bridal Shower, if you are buying multiple gifts you should be spending a smaller portion of your budget on this gift. I love bundling themed gifts together so some ideas might be a “kitchen starter” gift, a “movie night at home” gift, or a “honeymoon” gift. See below for some fun ideas.
Kitchen Starter Kit: Anthropologie “Love” Dish Towel / 5 Piece Kitchen Tool Set / Newlywed Cookbook
For the Honeymoon Gift: Ban.do Cooler Beach Bag / Monogram Drink Sand Spike / Underwater Camera / Initial Beach Towel
Movie Night at Home Gift: Snack Bowls / Popcorn / iTunes gift card to rent movies / Candy
Generally a Bachelorette Party gift entails something to be used on the wedding night or on the honeymoon. Again, this should be a small portion of your budget. Before you buy make sure you know the Bride’s size. Sometimes whoever is sending out the Bachelorette party invite will include the Bride’s bra and underwear size to make it a no brainer when choosing your gift. If you don’t know, just ask. It’s better to get her something she will love and be able to wear. Also, if you feel uncomfortable buying lingerie or a bra and underwear, a robe and some slippers or some nice lotions or candles make great gifts too. Below are some of my favorite ideas for Bachelorette Party gifts.
Pink Babydoll Lingerie / UGG Slippers / Hanky Panky Thong Set / “I Do” Thong / Black Lace Bodysuit / Jo Malone Lotion / Voluspa Candle Set / Honeydew Intimates Bra and Panties / Floral Robe / “Taken” Sleep Shirt
If the couple does not live where the wedding is taking place, it is better to send the gift to their address instead leaving at the gift table. This way the couple won’t have to spend the money shipping, especially since they most likely will be departing for their honeymoon immediately following their big day.
It is best to send the wedding gift to the new couple at least 2 months before the wedding. That way you know it will get to them in time and it will get to them before the stressful time before the wedding festivities begin.
If you are a Bride
If you are the Bride, don’t forget to give a gift to the members of your bridal party and your parents. These people are so special to you that they are helping you out on your most special day; and chances are your parents have helped pay for the big event as well. So don’t forget to show your appreciation with something special.
For my wedding, I gave a gift to my bridesmaids on the day of my wedding that included a personalized wine glass, orange juice and champagne for mimosas, a diamond ring wine bottle stopper, some lip gloss and a bracelet. However, I also gave them a CD with pictures of them from my wedding once I received all of my wedding pictures back from my photographer.
Some other fun gift ideas for the bridal party are small clutches, anything with a monogram (jewelry, bag, wine glass, etc.), a trinket or ring dish, or a framed picture of the two of you from the wedding with a special note.
As a special gift to my sister, who was my maid of honor, I gave her a beautiful Kate Spade Bracelet. This was the perfect way to say thank you to her for helping me in the planning process.
For my parents I gave them each a glass (wine glass for my Mom, beer glass for my Dad) that said “I survived by daughters wedding”. I also gave my dad a special picture frame of the two of us with a quote that I liked. These gifts were much more personal because, let’s be honest there is no way I will ever show them my gratitude for raising me and helping me coordinate the best day of my life. I also gave both our parents (and my grandmother) a wedding album after I received my photos back from my photographer. They loved it!!
Thanks for reading. What was your favorite wedding gift that you have either given or received? Let me know in the comments below.